Are you having a quarter life crisis? Or are you where you are supposed to be?
Hey there, I’ve felt it. That overbearing pressure to decide your future. To feel completely lost by the direction my life was going. I understand that feeling of despair and worry that you don’t know what you are doing. Although I’m now in my 40s, I remember my 20s and 30s like it was yesterday. With age comes wisdom and getting to know yourself.
Life is extremely annoying.
I always wanted to be an actor, but lost my self confidence quickly after doing my drama degree. This left me wondering what the hell I was going to do (as this had been my only plan) along with pressure from constant questions about what I was going to do with my life from family. I worked in so many different jobs in my 20s and felt so uninspired. In the end, I decided to train as a Mental health nurse, as I have always been interested in people and knew I would be able to find a ‘good job’. After a short while in nursing I realised it wasn’t for me, but knew I wanted to continue supporting others to feel better. That’s when I found coaching. I know the industry is saturated with people claiming to solve things, but I know what my strengths are after years of self development and getting to know myself, so I want to share advice in an authentic way.
It would be really useful if we could map out exactly what our life would look like and for it to go as planned. However, in reality that’s an impossibility and we make decisions that are best at the time.
So get comfy, and let's dive into this rollercoaster ride of young adulthood together.
First off, let's address the elephant in the room: what exactly is a quarter-life crisis? Well, it's that delightful phase of life where you start questioning everything – your career, your relationships, your purpose – and wondering if you're on the right track. It's like a midlife crisis, but with fewer wrinkles and more student loan debt.
But fear not, my crisis-stricken comrades! While navigating your 20s and 30s can feel like stumbling through a minefield of existential dread, there are plenty of ways to emerge from the chaos stronger and wiser. Here are some coaching tips to help you reclaim your quarter-life mojo and move forward with confidence:
Embrace the Chaos:
Repeat after me: it's okay not to have it all figured out. Seriously, take a deep breath and cut yourself some slack. Life is messy, unpredictable, and downright bizarre at times – and that's what makes it beautiful. Embrace the uncertainty, lean into the chaos, and trust that everything will eventually fall into place (or at least make for a great story later on).
Get Curious:
Instead of viewing your quarter-life crisis as a dreaded obstacle, see it as an opportunity for growth and exploration. Get curious about your passions, interests, and values. Try new things, take risks, and don't be afraid to fail spectacularly along the way. You never know what hidden talents or untapped potential you might discover when you venture outside your comfort zone.
Build Your community:
Surround yourself with supportive, like-minded individuals who uplift and inspire you. Whether it's your ride-or-die besties, your hilarious coworker who always has your back, or that random stranger you bonded with over a shared love of avocado toast, having a solid support network can make all the difference when you're navigating rough waters.
Practice Self-Care:
It’s crucial to prioritize self-care and mental well-being. Take time to recharge your batteries, indulge in activities that bring you joy, and practice mindfulness and self-reflection. Whether it's treating yourself to a spa day, journaling your thoughts, or belting out '90s karaoke hits in your bedroom, make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine.
Embrace the Journey:
Remember, life is a marathon, not a sprint. So don't get too caught up in comparing your journey to others or fixating on arbitrary timelines. Your path is uniquely yours, and every twist and turn, detour, and dead end is just another chapter in your epic saga. Embrace the journey, celebrate your victories (no matter how small), and trust that the universe has your back.
So there you have it – a friendly reminder that it's okay to feel: lost, confused, and utterly clueless at times. Just remember, you're not alone, and this too shall pass. So go forth, embrace the unpredictable years of your 20s and 30s, and remember to laugh often, love fiercely, and never underestimate the power of surrender. You've got this!
If you are looking for support, coaching can be a useful way of having a safe space to explore this and really help you to get clear about what you want and get confident about making that happen.
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